posted by: Tom Blake
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1. Sitting at home doesn't hack it. Get out and about. It doesn't matter where you go -- just commit to getting out.
2. Seize every opportunity. Always carry name cards printed with your telephone number. Hand them out to dating prospects, anywhere you see them. Make eye contact, and mention you'd like to hear from them.
3. Network relentlessly. Networking is the most effective date-finding tool. Ask your friends and acquaintances if they know of someone nice for you. Have them ask their friends.
4. Let him call you. If he says, "Call me," don't. His fingers are as capable as yours at dialing. If he's interested and has your number, he'll call.
5. Think creatively. Single men go to singles dances, but so do a million women. You'd be better off at a large home improvement store where lots of men wander the aisles. With a straight face and a smile, ask a single-looking guy something like, "Is this a left-handed screwdriver?"Computer stores and sporting goods outlets also have favorable men-to-women ratios. Avoid hanging out around race car crews, however...the men might be too fast!
6. Golf, anyone? Single men golf. Take up the game by starting off at a driving range. If a man offers some pointers, accept them graciously and give him your name card. If he's married, ask him to introduce you to his single friends and work on improving your game so you can advance to the golf course.
7. Attend youth sports games on Saturday mornings. You'll find divorced dads and widower grandpas there. Blend in along the sidelines. Compliment how his son or grandson played and, of course, hand over a copy of your name card.
8. Learn to use a computer. Millions of singles meet on the Internet, reaching out to each other all over America (and all over the world). For all of the Internet horror stories, there are many successes, and you just might find a local dating group.
9. Exercise daily. Not only does exercise help you look and feel better, but it puts you out among other people. Join or start a co-ed walking or jogging group. Join a health club where tons of single guys pump iron, and, while you're there, ask if you're using correct form.
10. Travel. Planes, trains or automobiles? The train is best for meeting other singles, since you can move around and don't have to wear a seat belt. Start a conversation and ask to meet up at meals or ask a single gentleman in the dining car if you may join him.
11. Single men like sandwich shops and car washes.Comment on their roast beef sandwich or their sparkling car. You'll get a conversation going.
12. Trust your instincts. If you have a bad gut-feeling about a man, you're probably right. Avoid him.
By thinking creatively, acting friendly and taking the initiative, you'll improve your chances of meeting men. Remember, dating is a numbers game: number four might be your guy, or you might not strike gold till number 26. Don't give up, and most of all, have fun.
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You've decided to date again, but your skills are a little rusty. Plus, you've been told the traditional ways of finding love don't work. So what's a woman to do? Follow these 12 tips and suggestions to get your dating game going.
1. Sitting at home doesn't hack it. Get out and about. It doesn't matter where you go -- just commit to getting out.
2. Seize every opportunity. Always carry name cards printed with your telephone number. Hand them out to dating prospects, anywhere you see them. Make eye contact, and mention you'd like to hear from them.
3. Network relentlessly. Networking is the most effective date-finding tool. Ask your friends and acquaintances if they know of someone nice for you. Have them ask their friends.
4. Let him call you. If he says, "Call me," don't. His fingers are as capable as yours at dialing. If he's interested and has your number, he'll call.
5. Think creatively. Single men go to singles dances, but so do a million women. You'd be better off at a large home improvement store where lots of men wander the aisles. With a straight face and a smile, ask a single-looking guy something like, "Is this a left-handed screwdriver?"Computer stores and sporting goods outlets also have favorable men-to-women ratios. Avoid hanging out around race car crews, however...the men might be too fast!
6. Golf, anyone? Single men golf. Take up the game by starting off at a driving range. If a man offers some pointers, accept them graciously and give him your name card. If he's married, ask him to introduce you to his single friends and work on improving your game so you can advance to the golf course.
7. Attend youth sports games on Saturday mornings. You'll find divorced dads and widower grandpas there. Blend in along the sidelines. Compliment how his son or grandson played and, of course, hand over a copy of your name card.
8. Learn to use a computer. Millions of singles meet on the Internet, reaching out to each other all over America (and all over the world). For all of the Internet horror stories, there are many successes, and you just might find a local dating group.
9. Exercise daily. Not only does exercise help you look and feel better, but it puts you out among other people. Join or start a co-ed walking or jogging group. Join a health club where tons of single guys pump iron, and, while you're there, ask if you're using correct form.
10. Travel. Planes, trains or automobiles? The train is best for meeting other singles, since you can move around and don't have to wear a seat belt. Start a conversation and ask to meet up at meals or ask a single gentleman in the dining car if you may join him.
11. Single men like sandwich shops and car washes.Comment on their roast beef sandwich or their sparkling car. You'll get a conversation going.
12. Trust your instincts. If you have a bad gut-feeling about a man, you're probably right. Avoid him.
By thinking creatively, acting friendly and taking the initiative, you'll improve your chances of meeting men. Remember, dating is a numbers game: number four might be your guy, or you might not strike gold till number 26. Don't give up, and most of all, have fun.
Tom Blake is the author of Middle Aged and Dating Again (Tooter's, 1997) and host of the Thirdage Dating After 50 discussion.
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