Finding Love

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Finding love, I should say, is one of the most wonderful and happy feeling in the world.

Have someone to love, to care for, to talk to, to spend time with, and to make life worth living.  If you have found that someone, I’m sure you know how blessed you are and you know why you should take care of it.


As we know, not everyone have the opportunity to find love, that someone who will complement them for long haul, especially nowadays, where most people don’t have that strong commitment as before.

Many relationships end up with separation and divorce because one, or both parties, gave up their commitment to stay together through whatever.

It may be because they fell out of love or the relationship became too hard to manage because of misunderstanding, false expectations or mismatch of desires and personalities.  With these scenarios, finding love, and the right person, has become one of the challenges in today’s world.

Whether you have never been in love and in relationship, or you’ve just been in a heartbreaking relationship, I’ve wrote this article to share with you some of the lessons I’ve learned about finding love.

I will provide 3 practical tips and steps that will equip you in your journey in finding love into your life.  These advices will help you save yourself from the painful experience of separation, as well as give you ways on how you can search and find the one or right person.

I remember just recently I was talking to a friend who was complaining why it’s hard for her to find love.  I’ve asked, “Do you prioritize looking for love?”, and she asked back, “do I need to think about it and prioritize it?”  I’ve answered, “of course, what we think and prioritize transpire into reality.”


I know a lot of people believe that love is destiny.  That finding love is something which happens to you in the right time, right place and right person, and it’s something to be waited because it will fall in your life at the perfect time without the need for you do something.  I’m sorry to disappoint you, but it rarely happens.  That scenario only happens in love stories and romantic movies.  If you will wait for destiny to unfold your love life, you may have to spend a lifetime waiting.


If you want to find and have love, then you have to think about it, you have to look for it, and you have to give priority to it.

And to help you in your search to find love, here are the 3 things you need to do:

1. Define the Person, and Relationship, You Want

You may find this weird but the first step to finding love is to define what you are looking for.  Like anything else in life, love first manifests in our mind, in our thoughts.

Isn’t when we want something, we first create it in our mind and then we define the characteristic and features, before we go out looking for the best deal?
Treat finding love and the right person that way.  Before you go out in search for love, be sure to identify first what you are looking for.  Keep in mind, however, that “right” doesn’t mean perfect, it simply means the suitable and appropriate to the criteria you are looking for.  If you set for perfect, you will never find it for no one will ever be perfect.


2. Go out and Attend Different Events without Your Friends once in awhile

Most people are afraid to go out of their comfort zone.  They are afraid to go out and try new things, and they have limiting beliefs on a lot of things, which prohibits them not only to find love, but as well as to enjoy their life to the fullest.

The next step in finding love is to try getting out of your comfort zone.  Attend events and gatherings alone, once in a while, without the usual comfort of familiar people, such as friends, co-workers and family.  It will be your chance to meet and mingle with different kinds of people, and a great opportunity to find love or the right person.

You eliminate such opportunity if you always go out with your peers, not unless the person you want to be with is within the familiar people.


3. Date Around, Collect and Select

One false expectation is to think once you attend events or gathering, found a person you think is right for you, everything else will fall into place and you will become couples.  But sad to say, rarely does it also happen.

Oftentimes, you will be in a situation where you will go out in a couple of dates first before you finally meet the one.  And it’s not a bad thing because it gives you time and space to carefully choose the person you will want to invest your time and emotion with.

Remember that love and relationship is an investment too, and the prices you invest are your emotions or feelings and time.  If you will take time finding and selecting the right person, you will save yourself from devastating feeling of heartbreak and you won’t be wasting your precious time with the wrong person.

So take time to enjoy this stage of dating.  When you are sure and ready, be mindful to select carefully.

written by Lou Macabasco - Yanuaria - www.lifetofullest.com

Online Dating Tips

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Take the Dangers Out of Online Dating


More and more people are seeing on-line dating as one way to meet people given the technology and busy schedules.

I have three main areas of concern: Safety, dishonesty and the fact that 30% of on-line daters are already married.

So in order to help with these issues, here are a few guidelines I’ve put together to help if you decide to go that route. Feel free to add to these on this blog and tell us your stories of success or failure with this approach to dating.



1) Use common sense and pay attention to your gut reaction. This is often the Holy Spirit in you, warning you that things may not be right.

2) If he or she sounds too good to be true, he or she probably is to good to be true and isn’t being truthful on his or her profile.

3) Listen and watch (by video) for signs of a temper, control, depression, etc. and run for the hills if you sense this person needs therapy first. You aren’t going to change him or her. Let the person get help.

4) Use a free email account with first name and something else. This way a person cannot search all your personal details.

5) Ask for a RECENT picture and encourage the person to send candid shots for more realism. You don’t want major surprises when you meet. Awkward!

6) If any one asks for money, do not give it. Most likely you are being scammed.

7) Don’t reveal details of your personal life too soon and be careful what you reveal. I had a client who told a guy she had money before she even met him. She was never sure if he was attracted to her for the money or because he genuinely liked her.

8) Paid services usually have more safety and screening procedures than free.

9) If you do have a home phone, don’t give out the number. Use your cell or a prepaid phone.

10) Some people have a great deal of social awkwardness at meeting others. If you meet and it feels awkward, you may want to give it another chance to see if the person settles down and is interesting.

11) Meet in a public space the first time.

12) Don’t use a provocative handle to get interest. The interest you get is not the kind of interest you want.

13) Don’t go into questionable chat rooms.

14) Use Skype (and other visual media) and Facetime to actually see each other if the relationship progresses. You get more information when you can observe nonverbal behavior.

15) Think about how your photos may be used. Once you send them to the Cloud or cyberspace, people can use them however they want. And get permission from any person who might be in a photo with you. Better yet, crop that person out of the photo. It violates his or her privacy.

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Finding Mr. Right

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Tips for successful women fed up with kissing frogs

Both women and men are waiting longer and longer to get married for the first time, according to the Census Bureau, and fewer women are having babies before their 40th birthdays, the Centers for Disease Control reports. Interestingly, more and more women are having babies well into their 40s. Could it be that it has become more difficult for couples to connect romantically?


“Women are likely to be more independent and professionally successful than they were a generation or two ago, and that’s wonderful, but it can come with baggage,” says Jane Atkinson, author of The Frog Whisperer: A Three-Step Approach to Finding Lasting Love (www.frogwhisperer.com). “We’re less likely to think about the energy we’re putting out to others, particularly the opposite sex, and that energy has a lot to do with how people react to us.”


Atkinson says finding Mr. or Ms. Right requires taking your eyes off of work and focusing on yourself more. What can you do to become the person you would want to date? She offers some tips for finding “the one.”


Figure out what you’re looking for. Have you thought hard about what kind of person you’re looking for? One trick is to visualize your perfect day. Are you at the beach? Traveling? Is the man with you quiet or chatty? Is the woman serious or funny? Does he want children? Does she go to church? This will help you identify the characteristics and values of your Mr. or Ms. Right so you can recognize them when he or she comes along.

Get happy in your own head. Once again, it’s all about attraction. Putting out positive, confident energy will attract the same. Besides, it’s never a good idea to rely on other people to make us happy. If you need to recover from old hurts, lose weight or find a job, take care of that business first.


Think you’re ready? Test yourself with this quick quiz.

Are you happy with yourself? (Or are you miserable because you’ve put on 50 pounds since your divorce?)

Are you looking for someone to rescue you or take care of you? (If you answer “yes” to this one, you may not be ready.)

Is there room in your life for a relationship? (Or do you have three kids and work a 60-hour week?)

Has enough time passed since your last relationship? (Or are you still wounded?)

Now, get yourself fabulous. Rather than, “Why can’t I find a good man?” ask yourself, “Who do I need to become to attract the man (or woman) who is perfect for me?” It’s not about changing you; it’s about being your best you. Part of that is your mojo – your self-esteem. If your mojo is slipping, you’ll attract control freaks, players and jerks. Pump it up with a makeover, a workout, a sincere inventory of your attributes.


Get out there! Put on your sexy jeans get yourself out the door. Where to start looking? If you enjoy working with your hands, volunteer for a Habitat for Humanity project. If you’ve always wanted to learn Italian, take a class. If you love to do yoga, check out a new studio (ladies, you’ll find a surprising number of guys there.) Perhaps you find a new church or take a class on Buddhism. The list of meeting spots for singles is a long one: bookstores, dance clubs, supper clubs, book clubs, gyms, golf courses, rowing clubs, dog parks.


Atkinson’s tips come from real-life experience. At 40, she realized she’d been kissing a lot of frogs and found not one prince. She applied the model she developed for her business, tweaked it and came up with “Frog Whisperer” – and a prince of a husband.

Jane Atkinson is the author of The Frog Whisperer: A 3-Step Approach to Finding Lasting Love and The Frog Whisperer Journal as well as a Positive Practice audio CD to help women (and men) get mentally ready for meeting their perfect mate. She lives in London, Ontario, with her husband of four years, John. Learn more about www.frogwhisperer.com.

This Article from: Beliefnet.com