Finding Love

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Finding love, I should say, is one of the most wonderful and happy feeling in the world.

Have someone to love, to care for, to talk to, to spend time with, and to make life worth living.  If you have found that someone, I’m sure you know how blessed you are and you know why you should take care of it.


As we know, not everyone have the opportunity to find love, that someone who will complement them for long haul, especially nowadays, where most people don’t have that strong commitment as before.

Many relationships end up with separation and divorce because one, or both parties, gave up their commitment to stay together through whatever.

It may be because they fell out of love or the relationship became too hard to manage because of misunderstanding, false expectations or mismatch of desires and personalities.  With these scenarios, finding love, and the right person, has become one of the challenges in today’s world.

Whether you have never been in love and in relationship, or you’ve just been in a heartbreaking relationship, I’ve wrote this article to share with you some of the lessons I’ve learned about finding love.

I will provide 3 practical tips and steps that will equip you in your journey in finding love into your life.  These advices will help you save yourself from the painful experience of separation, as well as give you ways on how you can search and find the one or right person.

I remember just recently I was talking to a friend who was complaining why it’s hard for her to find love.  I’ve asked, “Do you prioritize looking for love?”, and she asked back, “do I need to think about it and prioritize it?”  I’ve answered, “of course, what we think and prioritize transpire into reality.”


I know a lot of people believe that love is destiny.  That finding love is something which happens to you in the right time, right place and right person, and it’s something to be waited because it will fall in your life at the perfect time without the need for you do something.  I’m sorry to disappoint you, but it rarely happens.  That scenario only happens in love stories and romantic movies.  If you will wait for destiny to unfold your love life, you may have to spend a lifetime waiting.


If you want to find and have love, then you have to think about it, you have to look for it, and you have to give priority to it.

And to help you in your search to find love, here are the 3 things you need to do:

1. Define the Person, and Relationship, You Want

You may find this weird but the first step to finding love is to define what you are looking for.  Like anything else in life, love first manifests in our mind, in our thoughts.

Isn’t when we want something, we first create it in our mind and then we define the characteristic and features, before we go out looking for the best deal?
Treat finding love and the right person that way.  Before you go out in search for love, be sure to identify first what you are looking for.  Keep in mind, however, that “right” doesn’t mean perfect, it simply means the suitable and appropriate to the criteria you are looking for.  If you set for perfect, you will never find it for no one will ever be perfect.


2. Go out and Attend Different Events without Your Friends once in awhile

Most people are afraid to go out of their comfort zone.  They are afraid to go out and try new things, and they have limiting beliefs on a lot of things, which prohibits them not only to find love, but as well as to enjoy their life to the fullest.

The next step in finding love is to try getting out of your comfort zone.  Attend events and gatherings alone, once in a while, without the usual comfort of familiar people, such as friends, co-workers and family.  It will be your chance to meet and mingle with different kinds of people, and a great opportunity to find love or the right person.

You eliminate such opportunity if you always go out with your peers, not unless the person you want to be with is within the familiar people.


3. Date Around, Collect and Select

One false expectation is to think once you attend events or gathering, found a person you think is right for you, everything else will fall into place and you will become couples.  But sad to say, rarely does it also happen.

Oftentimes, you will be in a situation where you will go out in a couple of dates first before you finally meet the one.  And it’s not a bad thing because it gives you time and space to carefully choose the person you will want to invest your time and emotion with.

Remember that love and relationship is an investment too, and the prices you invest are your emotions or feelings and time.  If you will take time finding and selecting the right person, you will save yourself from devastating feeling of heartbreak and you won’t be wasting your precious time with the wrong person.

So take time to enjoy this stage of dating.  When you are sure and ready, be mindful to select carefully.

written by Lou Macabasco - Yanuaria - www.lifetofullest.com